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Dear Ms. O,

I need your help. I need to learn how to be good in bed with a woman.. I guess I never really let go, I’m kinda shy in bed.. You know my ex cheated on me.. And I heard a lot of stories.. Basically the 3rd party daw was good in bed.. I wanna rock my ex’s world when I get home.. She’s asking me back eh.. Can you please help me how to be good in bed? Thanks..

“Suzy”

There are many ways to improve your sexual performance. Dancing is my favorite. Great dancers, make great lovers. “Dancing is the vertical expression of the horizontal desire legalized by music.” It’s not the techniques that make a good dancer. But it’s all about the passion, confidence & rhythm. It goes the same way with sex. The way you dance is already a giveaway on how you will perform in the bedroom.

You can try different types of dancing that are suitable for you. There’s pole dancing, belly dancing, striptease dancing, etc. Or you can try the hottest dance on youtube right now called the “booty shaking”. If you don’t have time to go to dance classes, booty shaking is perfect for you. You can do it from the comfort of your own home. Here are the basic steps of booty shaking:

1. Grinding
- Draw a circle with your hips. Keep your back arched while doing this. Try to grind down by slowly bending your knees. Grind down as far as is comfortable then up again. Continually grind your hips and dance erotically. Keep your back arched and upright.
2. Pumping
- Sit in a straddle position, lean forward slightly and place your hands on the floor. Pump your hips rhythmically.
3. Combination
- Grind your hips and slowly go down. Hold your position and start pumping. Then grind all the way up again.
- Sit on straddle position and draw circle with your hips. Slowly grind your hips then pump rhythmically.
Continue practicing until you’re comfortable. I suggest you record yourself whenever you do the booty shaking dance. This way you can keep track of your progress and see how far you’ve come.

Click this video for some Booty Shaking demo:

Q: Hey Mocha, my wife and I don’t have sex anymore. How can I bring back our sexy time?

A: According to a study, women become less horny once they enter into a long -term relationship. While men are horny no matter how short or long the relationship has been. For many couples, their sexual desire started to plummet when their children came along. Other stressors like money, bills and work can reduce libido. Lack of sex between married couples will definitely result in decreased intimacy.

There are a lot of ways to bring back the spark. Using sex toys is one great way to start having fun again in the bedroom. Vibrators and other sex toys can bring back the sense of excitement that is missing in long-term relationships. If you can just keep an open-mind, you will be surprised how sex toys can help improve your marriage. Assure your partner that using toys doesn’t mean that he/she falls short when it comes to sex. Tell him/her that you want to use the toy and explore TOGETHER. DON”T bring out the toy in the middle of sex. You will freak him/her out. You need to talk about it first.

Sex toys allow you to pleasure yourself and your partner in so many exciting ways. I have a lot of toys like G-spot vibrators, bullet and lipstick vibes. But I’ve discovered a new toy that’s specifically designed for couples to enjoy together. It’s called Lelo SenseMotion Insignia. Click this video for demonstration:

Good News O-peeps, Those who want to buy toys, you can order online. LELO ships worldwide, including the Philippines– Special FREE SHIPPING to readers of my blog. Just get in touch with Lelo at pr@lelo.com with “I Love Mocha” as the subject. Enjoy!!

Our previous topic dealt with the fact that many girls are FAKING ORGASM. On this blog post, we’ll talk about why some girls don’t orgasm at all during sex. Also, Mae and I will share with you some tips on how to achieve female orgasm.

Here are the ff. reasons why girls don’t orgasm during sex:

1. Guys have no idea that girls need to orgasm as well during sex.
2. Guys restrain their girls from using vibrator.
3. Girls are shy to communicate with their partner what they want during sex.
4. Guys are selfish and lazy when it comes to pleasing the girl.
5. Girls are afraid to orgasm in front of their partner.

Here are some tips on how to achieve female orgasm: (FOR GIRLS ONLY)

1. Know yourself- START by MASTURBATION (VIT O). Girls, if you don’t have a toy, you can buy Premiere Max Spot finger massager. They’re readily available in convenience stores and they’re not expensive.

2.Fantasize, read erotic novels or watch porn while masturbating.

3. Have a girl-sex partner. If you’re still a virgin, I suggest you have sex with a girl first. You can experiment all you want without worrying of getting pregnant. What most girls don’t know is that they CAN get pregnant the first time they have sex with a guy.

3. Practice in the shower. Use the shower head when you masturbate. The hot water will stimulate your vaginal erogenous zones.

4. Communicate with your partner before or during sex. Talk dirty to him. Tell him what you want him to do to you.

By the way, regarding my previous video on Fake Orgasm – I only showed headshots of Mae and me while demonstrating fake orgasm. The challenge was for you to guess who’s faking it through our facial expression.

Click this video for more tips on how to achieve female orgasm and how to WIN a FLESHLIGHT!

In this blog, Mae and I have shared with you our secrets on how to turn on your woman and enjoy pleasurable sex. The next question is- how will you know if she climaxed and just had an orgasm or two? Or three? Or four?? Or multiple Os’ ??! It is important to not just turn on your woman but to also make her orgasm. Check out my post on G-spot orgasm Vs Clitoral Orgasm.

When a woman orgasms with her partner, it means she trusts him completely. She can open up to that level of vulnerability. Thus, there is intimacy. According to statistics, orgasm can strengthen a relationship. Experiencing orgasm regularly with one another is one way to have a happy and healthy relationship.

Some women fake orgasm for the ff reasons:

1. She doesn’t know what orgasm is.
2. She’s not satisfied with her partner.
3. She wants to just get it done and over with.
4. She wants to boost her partner’s ego.
5. She keeps her partner at a distance. Lack of trust.

Can you tell if she’s faking it? Check out this video:

Most men are clueless when it comes to turning on a woman. The secret? Stimulate her senses. There are a lot of ways on how to get her in the mood. My favorite is sensual massage – particularly, kiss massage. Mae and I made a demo video on how turn her on by giving sensual massage. Instead of using massage oil or lotion, we used EZ Jelly because it’s water-based. As we’ve discussed before, oily substance can break the condom. When you use EZ jelly to massage her, you can proceed with sex without having to spoil the moment. Because you don’t need to wash your hands before putting on a condom. ( SLIPPERY WHEN WET VIDEO )

Click the video for more:

Last September 1, Mocha GIrls together with South Border, entertained pinoys in Dubai’s Shoppiesta. It was the biggest and official event of “Eid in Dubai”. It was a 5-day celebration after the Ramadan that featured daily concerts. Line-up of artists included Bollywood starts and A-list hollywood performers Kelly Rowland, T-pain, Sean Paul. The Mocha Girls and South Border represented the Philippines on Filipino Night. During our concert, I was surprised to find out that 80% of the audience were following my blog. They’re O-peeps! I’m amazed how my blog has reached thousands of pinoys from all over the world including the Middle East (Dubai, Abu Dhabi, Saudi Arabia,etc.)! Here’s a video of the Mocha Girls Concert in Dubai:

Hello O-peeps! Here’s another sexperience video series. Mae and I are so happy to answer your questions. We’ve been receiving dozens of emaiks everyday. It may take a while for us to answer to your email, but rest assured we will read all of them. For those of you who want to share their sexperience, just email me thru mochauson@aol.com. You can also follow me on twitter.com/mochauson. Enjoy!

I really enjoy being invited to radio shows cuz unexpected things can happen. When I was on Mo Twister’s podcast, people hated me for the “breast exam” incident that has gained 500k views now on youtube. I don’t plan things when I’m on the show. I just wanna be myself and go with the flow. Last Friday, Mae and I were invited to be guests on KC Montero’s radio show. I was excited to be there cuz I heard that his co-dj Kat Alano was bicurious. So Mae and I couldn’t wait to test her bicuriousity and find out if she’s bisexual. We also taught KC how to turn on women by giving sensual massage. Watch the video for more:

Hey O-peeps! Sorry it took me a while to post a new topic. My blog was temporarily disabled due to excessive usage of bandwidth. But it’s ok now. I just need to transfer the videos to another site.

Anyway, today’s topic is one of my favorites – Cunnilingus Positions. There are several positions but Mae and I are going to share with you our top favorites. Click the video for demonstration.

Btw, for those of you who are asking, you can buy EZ Jelly (water-based lubricant) from ministop or 711.

Hey O-peeps! Nice chatting with you on Ustream last Thursday night! Mae and I had so much fun! We’ll have more live video chats soon! We’ll keep you posted on our FB. We’re going to take a short break from a regular sex education. Mae and I have decided to answer a couple of emails for this blog post. We’ll be reading their sexperiences and give them quick answers to their problems. If you have any sexperiences that you’d like to share, email me thru mochauson@aol.com.

Check out Mae singing one of her favorite songs. Don’t forget to add her on FB and follow her on Twitter. Enjoy!

Due to insistent public demand, especially by the ladies, I’m going to share with you my knowledge about cunnilingus. Cunnilingus is the act of stimulating a woman’s vagina using your tongue and lips. Most women orgasm through cunnilingus. Ladies, make sure you smell and taste good down there before you let your partner perform oral sex on you. Practice proper hygiene – shave your pubes, use feminine wash, panty liners, etc.

It’s important to remember a few tips before going down on your partner. You need to turn on a woman first before you give her oral sex. Tease her mind by talking dirty/sexy. During foreplay you can whisper thru her ear that you want to eat her. Tell her you want to taste her juice and suck her to the last drop. Talk like a pro-pussy licker. Be confident. By doing this, you are letting her imaginations run wild. You can make her wet just by talking dirty. Gently stroke her inner thighs using your hands – from the knee towards her vagina. Stroke her up and down but stay away from the vagina. Now that’s she’s already turned on and wet, it’s time to go down on her. Guys, if you’re not really into the taste, put on a flavored condom (LICK condom) and tease her vagina with your penis. By doing this, her vagina will taste like candy.
There are three basic Cunnilingus Techniques:
1. Kissing – Begin by softly kissing the outer lips of the vagina. Work your way around, teasing the “lips” (labia minora and labia majora) with your tongue. Don’t kiss the clitoris.

2. Licking – Lick the area around the clitoris. You need to tease the area a bit before directly stimulating the clit. Lick it as if you’re licking an ice cream. By this time you will feel her clit harden. You can now start licking her clit gently then increase speed and intensity..

3.Sucking – suck her clit. This is also called Clitoral blowjob. Flick the clitoris with your tongue while sucking. Don’t take your mouth, lips and tongue away from the clitoris. Increase speed until she comes.

Watch this video for some cunnilingus demo:

IMPORTANT: Make sure you don’t have any cuts or sores in your mouth before giving oral sex to prevent transmission of STDs/HIV/AIDS. To be 100% safe, have your partner tested for STDs/HIV/AIDS before sex.